Tuesday, February 5, 2013

Romance...dead and gone???

Seems in this day and age everything is expected to move quickly....internet connection, lines at the grocery store and relationships. Life has become fast paced, I am as guilty as the next person in wanting my coffee NOW, wanting a fast internet connection and so forth. Holy hell, I cannot even imagine dealing with dial up ever again without the urge to throw my lap top out a window and/or punch someone in the face because I am made to wait. Sadly I am seeing the same trend in relationships. I watch, and again I have been guilty of this before, people jump from one person to another, in love in a matter of weeks. Only to find out in my experiences, I was never actually in "love" but more lust in the moment. Ahhh yes I do have a point here (I think LOL)

Romance.....is it a dead language today? Any one ever fantasize about being "courted" any more? I know I have and get all soaked panty syndrome over the thoughts of a guy truly "courting" me and not just trying to get my panties to hit the floor in record time. Now understand I am not by any means saying anything negative about wanting to get it on with a person who you are attracted to. I am in many ways a hopeless romantic with a huge side of deviant perversion O.o.  Basically I want a sweet kiss on the forehead or an over empowering embrace BEFORE you spank my ass. Is that too much to ask for? Feed me before you bed me please =]

Today I see relationships that remind me of a fast food drive through...you pull up, get what you need and then drive off. Am I saying this is how it is with every one..nope not at all, but I am seeing it more today than I did 25 years ago. Oh and this goes for both men and women, I believe women today are much more aggressive about their sex lives than they use to be and I am loving it!! Well as I am a women and a horny one at that!!! Oh and screw you people who high five the guy for getting laid and down the women who do the same thing. I embrace my slut side completely :) I have a vagina with needs dammit!!

Oh back on track I go......

So all sluttiness aside, I want to be swept off my feet by a romantic candle lit dinner (don't forget the chocolate covered strawberries or my wetness just became death valley) or a picnic at a park/beach. Hell it doesn't matter what it is as long as some thought goes into making it happen. THAT is the key, how much thought was put into whatever was planned? Anyone can walk into a restaurant and have dinner....whoopty doo aren't you special!!! EFFORT...show the person you love that you actually care, saying I love you is nice but showing it through actions is a sure fire way to get the best oral sex you could imagine!! Hell attempt poetry...yea guys don't always write as well as women (sorry it is mostly true, emotional wise at least) either way men or women on the receiving end of that piss poor attempt at poetry will be moved by the thought that went into that poorly written jumble you claim is poetry ...we are by no means expecting or claim to be the next William Shakespeare. If/when I have received such letters via emails or texts I get instant lady wood, clean up on isle 3, moment happens.

Of course this is all generalized and in order to make it work and re-ignite romance it takes 2...or 3..or 4, whatever you relationship situation happens to be...hey I am not judging here :) it takes all parties involved to make an effort, do not leave it on the shoulders of just one person. So ladies if you want your man to be more romantic then you also need to step it up and romance your man. Make him feel like he is the King of your universe =] no worries he can always be dethroned and so can you if it is deserved.

                                              ( now how's that for a serenade?? swoon)

Thought, effort and genuine actions go a long way when trying to sweep your partner off their feet. I know for myself actions speak louder than words, but I will also admit that when my man gives me beautiful compliments I truly just melt inside. I tend to write better than I speak, but I do realize that I need to reciprocate more because I know it will make him feel good to hear praise and adoration fall from my lips as well. In ways my mind can be "old fashion" and I tend to wait on the man to "wine and dine" me. So I need to step my shit up as well and sweep my man off his feet when he least expects it. Nothing makes a bad day better than when their partner goes that extra mile to show them they are loved and appreciated for all they do. So lets get back to basics here and treat relationships as they are meant to be treated, with work and constant effort to keep it alive!!

Oh and don't forget the mind blowing sex!!!!!


  1. I think romance is on its way out but, in part, because a lot of women have started to kill it. The nice guy finishes last and all that. I only recently started to accept the fact that my man courting me and showing romantic gestures, flowers, cards, candlelit dinners, is acceptable and that him opening doors for me didn't make me any less of a woman. It's a nice feeling. And the sex - AMAZING. If you don't believe me, ask the neighbors. :)

    1. LOL I agree and when I hear people whine because their "other half" doesn't anything for them, it is time they look in the mirror and ask themselves "what am I not doing in this relationship."